r/cats Sep 07 '22 Silver 4 Helpful 10 Wholesome 6 LOVE! 1 Baby Snoo 1

New cat owner. Any advice? Cat Picture

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u/dubstep-party Sep 07 '22 Silver

Give kiss

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

Done

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u/worstsupervillanever Sep 07 '22

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u/Vinrant Sep 08 '22

Done

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u/Ska__Boo Sep 08 '22

UNLIMITED KISSES

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u/TeaOfHonor Sep 08 '22

might take a while until he's done

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u/dadbodfordays Sep 07 '22

Came here to say this. Maybe hug, too, but not too tight

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u/Mr-Felix-Dzerzhinsky Sep 07 '22

She is very closely observing you.

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

She does this all the time. She loves to stare at me and just watch what I’m doing. Even if I’m just sitting on the couch

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u/lawlorlara Sep 07 '22 Helpful Take My Energy

Look back at her and do some slow blinks. It's kind of a sign of affection -- I think it's how cats show that they're relaxed and at ease around each other.

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u/Sibushang Sep 07 '22

People underestimate how good this advice is. I've had cats go from major indifference to cuddling in just a matter of months by doing this. If you want cats to warm up to you, speaking to them by using their body language works wonders.

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u/techXwitch Sep 07 '22

I got in the habit of saying I love you while doing the slow blink. Now if I just say I love you she blinks back. She's my bestie and I love her 💖

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u/CapableProduce Sep 07 '22

Question here is have you trained the cat or has the cat trained you. 🤔

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u/techXwitch Sep 07 '22

The cat definitely trained me...I now slow blink at my husband and he understands it haha!

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u/MeMilesToo Sep 07 '22

This has to be a cat owner thing. You can do that across a room and if a person blinks back.. You know they have or have had a cat! 😂

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u/zombbarbie Sep 07 '22

Was going to say I also do this to my husband.

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u/Pysslis Sep 07 '22

I do this with my husband and we don’t even have a cat.

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u/Bodegard Sep 08 '22

Still, you hang in r/cats

You'll be fine! :7942:

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u/trullaDE Sep 07 '22

LOL, I do this with little kids. Like, this is what I learned to do as a non-verbal "I am friendly, I won't harm you, you can trust me, everything is fine".

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u/CincySnwLvr Sep 08 '22

I didn’t realize I was doing this until my 2yo nephew started slow blinking back at me LOL

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u/drugzarecool Sep 08 '22

I imagine myself squinting my eyes at a random kid on the bus and it really doesn't give off the same vibe.

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u/serendipitousevent Sep 08 '22

You've gotta try it pants-on next time.

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u/petriepie Sep 08 '22

When we first got my cat, I would slow blink in response to my boyfriend saying he loves me then realised that I didn’t say it back LOL

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u/TheLightInChains Sep 07 '22

"I trained my cat to play Fetch!"

"No, your cat has trained you to play Throw. When she gets bored she stops bringing it back."

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u/ARCK71010 Sep 07 '22

My cat thought she invented “Throw”. That is, I’d had her from six weeks old, and she brought me the ring from a milk jug one day. Laid it down, watched me pick it up, then crouched down in anticipation of me throwing it.

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u/Exquisitegirl133 American Shorthair Sep 08 '22

My cat started messing around with our die from board games- now we can’t play monopoly ‘cause someone would throw the dice, she goes after it, brings it back, and eventually the dice just disappears

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u/FlemPlays Sep 08 '22 Silver

“Wait, you wanted me to catch mice and not dice?”

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u/-_MoonCat_- Ragdoll Sep 08 '22

My cats also love this game.

With each other, my cats also play chase around the house sprinting back and forth taking turns chasing one another.

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u/LilaValentine Sep 07 '22

My cat trained me so well when she was thirsty she would jump in the bathtub and yell, and I would come running and turn the tap ever so slightly so it would drip onto the tab and she would drink her fill. My apartment complex is completely stumped as to why I have needed to have that particular leak fixed so many times.

Edit: she wakes me up by grooming my eyebrows so all is forgiven

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u/CopprRegendt Sep 07 '22

furball used to groom my eyebrows! when he wanted me to wake up and feed him breakfast.

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u/marvistamsp Sep 07 '22

Buy one of those water fountain cat bowls. It just pumps water in an endless stream. It ended the midnight wake ups because the cat was thirsty.

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u/LilaValentine Sep 08 '22

I tried everything. Bowls, fountains, hamster feeders. I finally put my foot down and tried carrying her to the water bowl for a month, and it was heartbreaking for me. Now she drinks from the toilet and I pretend I don’t notice. Some battles aren’t worth fighting 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/marvistamsp Sep 08 '22

I here that, thankfully I was saved by the water fountain. Cat woke me up every night around midnight.

Now I just need to feed wet food at 4 PM promptly.

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u/Sad-Communication835 Sep 08 '22 Platinum

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You cat drinks out of the toilet because she likes cold water and because when you flush it it is fresh water. Try keeping a jug of water in the fridge and filling her bowl up with it several times a day. Also cats do not like the taste of water in anything plastic. If she has a plastic bowl get rid of it. Use only glass or stainless steel dishes. Another thing you can try is find a short wide top cup or glass and fill that with water.. some cats like drinking out of mugs and glasses. She will stop drinking out of the toilet if you try those things. Fill her bowl up with fresh water several times a day and make sure it is cold.

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u/Down-InA-hole Sep 07 '22

My cat rarely drinks out of the water bowl, if ever. He trained me to turn on the faucet so it just drips and he loves it

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u/Willothwisp2303 Sep 07 '22

My husband's cat doesn't like that I came and broke up their bachelor lifestyle. He grumps at me a lot, but when I tell him I love him he slow blinks back. The little turd does love me after all!

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u/UXM6901 Sep 07 '22

My husband's pre-relationship cat is female. 9 years later and she still hates me. Though she guards the bathroom door for me when I use the restroom, and gives me an occasional slow blink from across the kitchen if our husband's not around.

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u/Convolutionist Sep 07 '22

our husband

Very true

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u/ARCK71010 Sep 07 '22

😆. Good catch!

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u/Racoon_Approved_Naan Sep 07 '22

Pushed the habit too far, I'll occasionally do it to people and then feel stupid

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u/techXwitch Sep 07 '22

My husband and I slow blink at each other -- it happened accidentally a few times and now it's just cute. I think someone was accurate when they said maybe my cat trained me haha!

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u/BlueBellRinger Sep 07 '22

I second this! I found all three of my babies as feral kittens (from bottle baby to five weeks) and with each, I've always accompanied the slow blinks with saying 'I love you'. So now they associate 'I love you' with their own way of saying it. They're all cuddlebugs and very affectionate.

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u/chonngy Sep 07 '22

Omg I love these happy stories!! Thank you for being such a good care taker of your kitty

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u/TZH85 Sep 07 '22

I do it so much to my cats I caught myself actually slow blinking at people.

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u/Openminded_skeptic Sep 07 '22

OMG all the time. And other animals.

Weirdly, it seems to work with turtles too which was a surprise.

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u/tikitessie Sep 07 '22

I slow blink at cat videos :(

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u/zacksje Sep 07 '22

Haha I’ve accidentally slow blinked at babies

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u/-One_Esk_Nineteen- Sep 07 '22

My partner and I slow blink at each other all the time ever since I taught him how to get my cat to like him. It’s our silent “I love you”.

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u/Arrowkill Sep 07 '22

My wife and I have two cats. The first was supposed to be her ESA but I slow blinked at him a ton, fed him, scooped his litter, and did just about everything for him while she was bedridden and now he believes I am the be all end all of his needs.

Want pets, tap my shoulder. Want food, tap my shoulder and meow. Want pets really badly? Hop in my lap with 15 pounds of healthy chonk and smash his cheek into my hand or cheek. The list goes on.

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u/Mono_831 Sep 07 '22

That’s a hefty chonk!

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u/Arrowkill Sep 08 '22

He is. He could stand to lose half a pound but he wouldn't be considered overweight until 16 pounds. He is a black tabby mixed with probably Bombay.

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u/Growth-Advanced Sep 07 '22

My sister and I refer to this as “blinky love-eyes.” 😻

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u/DebFran6 Sep 07 '22

My family called them eye kisses.😘

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u/skronze Sep 07 '22

It's actually awful. I do the whole slow blinking thing with my cat so much that I find myself doing it to dogs, people etc.. you will lose all ability to communicate with humans in a normal matter!

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u/MrsPicklefish Sep 07 '22

My husband tells me off for slow blinking at him... It happens!

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u/tikitessie Sep 07 '22

My husband and I slow blink at each other on purpose!

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u/Seicair Sep 07 '22

Do you headbutt him affectionately too? My girlfriend and I do that. >_>

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u/MrsPicklefish Sep 07 '22

Haha! No. Although he would probably bite me if I tickled his belly...

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u/urgentbun Sep 08 '22

Our boy passed away nearly two years ago, don't have another cat, and my husband and I still slow blink at each other all the time, haha.

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u/Darkest_97 Sep 07 '22

So is slow a slow single blink or a long amount of time between blinks or both?

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u/lurker-at-heart Sep 07 '22

Sometimes my cat slow blinks back other times he just stares at me. I ask him “not feeling it today, huh?” He continues to stare at me so I kiss the top of his head and leave him alone.

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u/xTyRaNoXx Sep 07 '22

That is pretty much with most of the animals . If you look at them and do slow blinks it means that adrenaline is not like pumping and that you are not going to fight them . And if you look at them and blink that way to let them know that you are aware of their presence and then look like far away from them while remaining the same distance then it will show them that you are not aware of them .

That is what I have learnt while walking and seeing multiple dogs on the streets and my personal cat .

They are truly created in such an amazing way .

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u/ChinchillaToast Sep 07 '22

For extra enrichment you could let her smell something you are interacting with every once in a while. The remote if you are watching tv or ingredients if you are making something in the kitchen. It will provide novel stimulation and will make her feel like she is participating.

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u/ThisIsMyCouchAccount Sep 07 '22

You ever watched a Jun's Kitchen video?

He does full cooking videos with his cats nearby. He lets them smell and observe everything. Watching other videos you can tell the cats are not exactly super behaved. But I swear just letting them be nearby and letting them sniff keeps them happy and out of the way.

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u/JupiterR301 Sep 07 '22

Very very cool channel!
I love how he lets the cat sniff everything he puts into his dishes!

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u/AsleepConcentrate2 Sep 07 '22

Funny enough my cat has like zero interest in most human food. She’ll sniff it and then just kinda stare at it, even if I set it down so she can easily snatch it away. At best. If it’s something pungent she’ll do the yucky face and leave lol

But get a handful of Greenies treats and all bets are off…

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u/[deleted] Sep 07 '22

One of my cats always wants to sniff my morning coffee, turns her nose up at it everytime and would never drink it but still wants a sniff before I'm allowed to drink.

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u/Lunkis Sep 07 '22

My wife is a fan - she puts our cat on the fridge while there's any cooking going on and lets her smell independent ingredients. She'll stay up there for the entire process.

I've also held her in the kitchen for the smells - away from anything dangerous. She'll sit in my arms for 20-30 minutes just observing. Little sous chef!

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u/ItMeWhoDis Sep 08 '22

I had my cat on the shelf overlooking our countertop. He loved watching me cook until he pushed the recipe books over which caused all the glass bottles next to it to tip over... Very traumatic for him and he won't go back even years later. Too bad. It was so cute

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u/ChinchillaToast Sep 07 '22

I love Jun’s kitchen! I was thinking about that channel when I made that comment.

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u/PolymerPussies Sep 07 '22 Helpful

Best advice I can give you is to print out and hang up this Watercolor by world famous artist polymerpussies so that your cat knows you are serious about being a cat person.

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u/Openminded_skeptic Sep 07 '22

Awww that's sweet! I hope OP sees this!

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u/Mr-Felix-Dzerzhinsky Sep 07 '22

And when sleep she writes a report to the Cat Government!

Love it!

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u/lemoncfpv Sep 07 '22

she prob wants you to feed her... :D mine gives me extra attention when she wants food or more food.*

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u/JuniperSol Tuxedo Sep 07 '22 Gold

Feed and play on a schedule. Cats work in routines, just like we do. So feed on a schedule (smaller, more frequent meals) and play on a schedule too. This will help your cat adapt to your schedule, so you have fewer encounters with the cat being awake at night or disturbing you when you're occupied or busy.

Catify your home. Jackson Galaxy has a lot of great videos on this topic. The more territory the cat can experience, the better. Also, keep a cat tree by the window. If you're away, cats spend most of their time looking out a window. It helps occupy their brain, and your cat will appreciate it.

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

I have been watching Jackson Galaxy non stop. I have the cat tree near the window. Oreo is two pounds under weight. Does this change how I should feed her?

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u/ChinchillaToast Sep 07 '22

That’s a vet question. Probably won’t change the feeding routine, but might change what you are feeding her. A vet might recommend a high calorie food or supplement.

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u/Moucerr Sep 07 '22

So, I don't have advice about how often or much you need to feed her (talk to a vet about that, imo), but I've intentionally not set a feeding time in the morning. People complain about their cats waking them up early in the morning, by feeding my cat at night (around the same time I'm cooking dinner), I've managed to avoid this behavior. I leave some kibble out 24/7, allowing him to free feed. His vet is happy with his weight for his size, and he seems to self regulate how much he eats every day fairly well. Some days he's not very hungry and others he's voracious, but he seems happy with our system and the vet is happy with his health and weight so our system works for him. Obviously if the situation changes then I'll adapt.

So, that's my advice: talk to your vet about Oreo's diet, and if at all possible, avoid morning feeding to discourage the "wake up the slave for food" behavior. When your cat plays checkers, you need to play chess.

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u/Miqotegirl Sep 07 '22

Btw, if your cat is yelling the morning for their food and you want to train them not to wake you up, don’t respond to them yelling. If they see a response, even negative, they will continue to yell and do everything they can to get fed.

Cats are creatures of habit. If you get up five days a week at 5am, it is likely they will not let you sleep in the weekends. But if you suddenly don’t have to get up at 5am, like your job changes schedules, you can train your cat not to wake you up at 5am. It should only take 1-2 weeks.

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u/Moucerr Sep 07 '22

This is a good point. Cats are, despite common opinion, very trainable. I've been able to train behaviors in and out of my cat, fairly successfully (he is a cat, after all). If it's getting near his food time he'll yell at me then go sit by his food bowl, I've tried to teach him if he needs me to do something he can guide me to what he wants and sit to show me what he needs. Not happy with litter for some reason? Meow, guide and sit. Did I stay up way too late? Meow, meow some more until I give in, acknowledge "bed time" and then up to bed. Wait... Did he train me on that last one?

The key, I've found, is consistency. Everyone in the home needs to be aware of what the current targets are, and how he is being rewarded (treats, verbal acknowledgement, etc.).

The other thing I've found is he responds much better to shorter, more frequent training sessions. He seems to like 2-3 or so a day of 5-10 minutes each instead of 1-2 of 15-20. I imagine this is variable depending on the individual cat.

Results may vary.

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u/JuniperSol Tuxedo Sep 07 '22

A lot of cats can't self-regulate, unfortunately. Glad this works for you, though

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u/Moucerr Sep 07 '22

I've been blessed with an orange boy that seems to get more than his fair share of time with the braincell. He's a pretty good boy when he's not being a furry dick, but he's my furry dick so I love him.

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u/JupiterR301 Sep 07 '22

Yeh self feed cats are few and far between Most just get fat if you let them decide how much they eat a day haha

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u/liniNuckel Sep 07 '22

In my country its standard to leave out cat food 24/7 but most cats are also free to go outdoors whenever they please

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u/Alternative-Drop-703 Sep 07 '22

frankly out of the six kitties I have, it’s difficult to find a good food that is suitable for all of their little tummies BUT the best food ever, and I can say this with confidence, is Purina Chow Naturals. My kitties are all at a healthy weight now, some a little chunkier haha, and no tummy issues! beware of the stressed kitty poo though if you notice it getting runny or anything like that, probiotic treats work wonders. actually any sort of sickness can be helped with them.

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u/rhou17 Sep 07 '22

I had a cat tree by the window, but it led to some issues as you can see. They have an ottoman/whole couch to sleep on by the window, so I feel like it’s alright? https://i.imgur.com/AgIidVP.jpg

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u/rawkstaugh Egyptian Mau Sep 07 '22

Don’t make extended direct eye contact- you will fall deeper under its influence.

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

Oh no… I’m already a goner

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u/up_d00t Sep 07 '22

Cat trust: will close their eyes for extended periods around you.

Cat absolute trust: will show you their tummy and allow you near it.

But, yeah, feed them the best food you can afford, keep the vaccinations up to date and have an annual health check at the vet. Other than that enjoy your mew bestie

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u/Top_Hat_surgeon Sep 07 '22

In all seriousness though, direct eye contact generally feel uncomfortable and threatening for cats; unless you're doing the slow blink, don't stare directly at your cat

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u/AsleepConcentrate2 Sep 07 '22

I love how they can just stare at us and it’s cool but if we stare back suddenly it’s an insult to their honor

especially when their eyes are just perfect for gazing in to

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u/Top_Hat_surgeon Sep 07 '22

I legit slow blinked at that picture before realising what I was doing...

</sighs/>

I swear, I've picked up so much cat body language, that I need to stop myself from hissing at people I dislike.

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u/Hey-GetToWork Sep 07 '22

I need to stop myself from hissing at people I dislike.

I don't know, that sounds like an effective way to deal with that problem...

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u/I-AM-Savannah Exotic Shorthair Sep 07 '22

I need to stop myself from hissing at people I dislike.

Why stop? Let them know exactly what you are thinking!!

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u/Technical_Shake_9573 Sep 07 '22

Well i'm no expert, but my cat rarely stares at me for a long period of time. It looks if i'm moving or doing something but will either slowblink or divert his eyes after some seconds... then go back to stare, repeat that for minutes. It's very occasional that he locks up on you.

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u/CheapSid Sep 07 '22

My deaf 8 month old female stares at me, like a psychopath, I've noticed recently that she does it to her bf Timmy now as well, we're like nervous wrecks :)

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u/_Bren10_ Sep 07 '22

I’ve learned that I can get my cat to follow me into any room simply by locking eyes and moving around the corner. He always makes a little meow and trots in to chase me. I think he takes it as a challenge.

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u/Pjpjpjpjpj Sep 07 '22

This is the cat. I’ll be handling all future replies. 🐈‍⬛

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u/kiyan_lives Sep 07 '22

My advice: Spoil that mf cat

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

Haha I’m trying to. Bought some toys and we have been playing as much as she wants to.

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u/pastelquail Sep 07 '22

You've already found the key! "As much as she wants to"

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u/rachman77 Sep 07 '22

Such a beautiful cat, love the cheeks and the mits!

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u/16blacka Sep 07 '22

Real advice: set a time for playing. If you let her decide every time she feels like playing she won’t understand when you genuinely don’t have time to play with her. This usually leads to the cat being very vocal about wanting to play, and that’s if they communicate it well instead of rebel. Don’t want a pushy kitty who just wants to play wind up being a jerk because he thinks you don’t want to play with them.

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u/XxearthwalkerxX Sep 07 '22

Do not wake up at 4am to feed your cat, if you do it once, you are going to do it for eternity

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u/worstsupervillanever Sep 07 '22

I allowed this to happen about a year ago and I love it. It completely changed my lifestyle from a lazy fuck sleeping until noon, into a normal human that goes to bed at 9pm and wakes up early. I even learned how to TIG weld over the summer (Las Vegas is hot af) and it's changed my life.

All thanks to the goober named Doug.

Cat tax https://imgur.com/0WUliXf.jpg

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u/[deleted] Sep 08 '22

My Gato is the single best thing that has happened to me in 4 years. Before she came into my life, I was a mess. I'd spend more on weed that I did food, and I'd have just enough gas to get to the dispo and back. I'd wake up with no plans for the day and do nothing. When our paths crossed, I knew she was a reason to stabilize myself and become more responsible.

I've had her for a month and 3 weeks now, and she has been an amazing change in my monotonous and boring life. Not just that, but when I have her in a carrying bag in a store, or on the streets, hearing people say "omg it's a cat," seeing people take a second glance and get giddy, or when I'm at the cash register and the clerk notices her, it makes my day. She makes me happy. She makes others happy. I love her so much. (I just heard her burp from the back of my car... fking cutie.)

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u/donidew Sep 07 '22 Gold Wholesome
  1. Have a mini emergency fund for them for routine and unexpected vet visits
  2. High quality food (I like grain-free. You don’t see cats eating an ear of corn in the wild).
  3. Clean the litter every day. Deep clean the litter boxeS every few weeks depending on how dirty it gets.
  4. Enjoy every minute as they are only with us a short period of time.

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

This is good advice. Thank you.

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u/donidew Sep 07 '22

You’re so welcome!

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u/Damien__ Sep 07 '22

Do whatever that cat tells you to do, without argument!

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u/jb94north Sep 07 '22

Yes! You must realize who is actually the owner, then it's a piece of cake from there...

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u/[deleted] Sep 07 '22

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

Bingo

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u/GiantPurplePeopleEat Sep 07 '22

Hey OP, did you happen to notice that u/PolymerPussies painted a picture of your new cat?

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u/Quazifuji Sep 07 '22

This is a picture of a new cat owner, not by a new cat owner.

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u/Cronnok Sep 07 '22

Are you that cat? Just curious... :3

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

But I…

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u/theflemmischelion Sep 07 '22

No this is not a discusion

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u/CamoTitanic Sep 07 '22

The cat owns you, not the other way around

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u/Rimbosity Sep 07 '22

sleep with one eye open. I've seen that look

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u/DonnyTheNuts Sep 07 '22

Gripping your pillow tight

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u/tinaxbelcher Sep 07 '22

Yup. You do not own Cat. Cat owns you.

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u/PBDubs99 Sep 07 '22

Yeah, give him the check book, he's in charge now.

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u/ThisistheHoneyBadger Sep 07 '22

Get him treats right meow!

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u/EarthAngelGirl Sep 07 '22

He still thinks he owns the cat. Haha

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u/Beagle_Mommy2 Sep 07 '22

How did my cat end up at your house?!? I swear they could be twins!

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

They do look similar for sure!

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u/Technician8795 Sep 07 '22

Regular vet visits should be scheduled to keep up shots and general wellness. Any time they appear sick or injured, the vet is usually the best place to go.

If you feed them consistently at certain times or keep to other schedules, they will usually adapt to those schedules - so if you plan on sleeping in, feed the cat and scoop the litter first.

They all have their own personality, so give them space and they’ll set the terms for how often they need affection.

They can be bribed with treats, but the effectiveness of this depends on what you want them to do, not do.

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u/Plunder_Bunny_ Sep 07 '22

Treats also depend on the cat. I have one that won't take or eat treats at all. But playing can entice her, or real food.

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u/High_Seas_Pirate American Shorthair Sep 07 '22

My cat likes to eat very early in the morning (~4am). I just feed her before I go to bed and she'll go find her food when she's hungry. Granted, she also likes to sleep in just as much as I do so that helps. It's not unusual for her to stay in bed with me until noon if I take a lazy day.

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u/ktv13 Sep 07 '22

Since I got a cat in spring I haven’t slept in a single night, she has everything she needs and yet she starts crying at 6 sharp every morning. I’ve tried all the standard recommendations. Vet says she’s perfectly healthy. She’s got an automatic feeder so she isn’t hungry. She doesn’t lack attention as we play with her a lot during the day. And yet at 6AM All she wants is attention and action and she will meow nonstop until she gets it. Otherwise she’s the best cat. I love this cat but I’m so tired.

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u/Technician8795 Sep 07 '22

Maybe you need a way to let her come sit with you while you sleep. Can she get up on the bed? You could leave a pathway open for her, maybe even a ramp if she can’t jump that high yet.

It might just be her need for proximity to you.

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u/ktv13 Sep 07 '22

I thought so too. The thing is when she’s in the room she cries less but then she decides 4AM is playtime and chases my Hand and hair. And then I’m awake even earlier. There is just no winning.

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u/jeffreyd00 Sep 07 '22

Only one solution, a second cat. 😂

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u/FlyingWicket Sep 07 '22

Give the cat space. They do not like being picked up randomly (imagine if someone did that to you).

When you make eye contact, do a slow blink and then look away (sign of affection and mutual trust).

If a cat is meowing at you, follow them and they will lead you to what they want (food, pets in a sunny spot, outside for a walk).

When you approach a cat, do it slowly and let them sniff your hand first.

Don't be overly aggressive or fast when petting them.

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u/MissTheWire Sep 07 '22

We were visiting a friend and followed the advice about the meowing cat.

Turns out it was late and she wanted us to leave. 😂

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u/bugrug Sep 07 '22

"This is the door. Please see yourself out."

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u/captaintagart Sep 07 '22

My dog does this, almost like he can sense that I want people to leave or I want to leave a group of people. At home, he’ll be totally chill (if it’s people he knows) until he’s decided it’s time for them to leave. He barks (SO LOUD) and herds them to the door. I love that dog

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u/Plupert Sep 07 '22

Next thing you know the cat is gonna do the classic knee slap and “welp I think it’s getting late”

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u/door_food Sep 07 '22

Might be the minority but my cat loves getting scooped up

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u/tikitessie Sep 07 '22

Alternately, let them show you what they want. I have one who loves aggressive butt spanks and fast aggressive pets

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u/Chuck_217 Sep 07 '22

Our big girl isn't a fan of being picked up, but she's getting used to it. The other two dudes have always LOVED being picked up.

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u/Mr_Headcrab Sep 07 '22

Couple tips: 1. Don't declaw the kitty, it's inhumane. 2. Are they scratching in an area you don't want them to? Spray some citrus on that area, badabang badaboom. 3. Love thy kitty.

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u/jerelyn412 Sep 08 '22

Thank you! Had to scroll too far to see not to declaw. And adding to this bc cats have to scratch as it's just a part of their inherent traits. Just keep nails trimmed and set out cardboard scratchers around the house. Packing tape on furniture works in a pinch if they start to scratch sofas, chairs, etc. But there are plastic sheets you can buy just for this.

Declawing is the worst thing you can do to a cat and yourself. It'll never pee in its litter box again and will be a biter. Not to mention the pain those poor kitties go through.

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u/Pani_Ka Sep 08 '22

Oh god, declawing is not something I've even thought about because it's not even allowed where I live. It's inhumane and cruel.

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u/DorTheVillan Sep 07 '22

Bow down to your new master.

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

I will do as the cat says

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u/eft65 Sep 07 '22

Love him, pet him, and name him George 😺

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

I’m too basic… her name is Oreo

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u/eft65 Sep 07 '22

Lol my cat is named Oreo as well, but he came with that name :)

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

Her name was Janis at the Humane Society… she only had the name for a week so I changed it

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u/lgoodat Sep 07 '22

She does give off some Janis Joplin vibes though - I can see it :)

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u/mancapturescolour Sep 07 '22 edited Sep 10 '22 Gold Helpful

Congratulations!

Not a vet or professional but some observations from a previous first time cat owner (with an experienced partner) of shelter cats:

When they first come in:
Patience is key— Shelter cats need to take their time and can be extra shy.
Arrange water, and food. — Cats like it when food and water are a little bit away from each other. Ours didn't like wet food.
Setup the litter box(es). — They'll likely know what to do when they find them. Small kittens usually need a bit of help to figure it out. You might want to try different types of boxes/litter until you find one that works. Rule is n+1 boxes in the home. Scoop 1-2 times daily, put in corresponding amount of fresh litter. Deep-clean (wash, new litter) the box once a month or so.

First days:
Give them shelter — This could be under a couch, a table, on a chair etc. It's difficult since they're cute but just let them be. They'll eat when they're hungry and get more comfy soon.
Leave something that smells of you — Our cats like soft blankets or cozy long sleeves.
Anxious cats — Our cats felt calmer with Feliway but that can be hit and miss. Some cats might need special food, or medication, to feel more at ease.

Pet & Play:
Toys — We've gotten cat toys but just as much they like what they can find around the home. Also, don't underestimate simple toys like wands. Minimum 15 minutes per day will keep them happy.
Avoid the belly — Some cats may expose their belly to you. This is not necessarily an invitation to rub the tummy, but rather to say "I'm safe with you".
Tail tales — The tail will tell you lots about their mood. Google is your friend.
Slow blinking — This basically means I love you.
Make a fist and approach slowly — Let them set the pace.
Cat TV — especially for indoor cats, let them have a window or balcony (with a net) to look outside and enjoy the scenery. They like looking at birds and other animals visiting the home. In lieu of that, YouTube have great channels for this but be aware they might want to claw at your television.

General advice:
Vertical space — Cats enjoy being high up. We have empty shelves on the wall to climb, that gives access to the top of a set of closets.
Boundaries are OK — Cats may or may not become lap cats, that's OK. They may or may not want to be touched/held/lifted. That's OK.
A blanket can help — If you need to touch/hold them e.g., for transport, a vet told me that you can use a blanket and try to wrap them in that so they won't claw the 💩 out of you when getting them into a carrier etc.
Plants can be toxic — they're beautiful but some plants in your home may not be safe for your cat. The internet has info on what's OK or not. Sometimes it causes mild irritation and tummy issues (loose stool) other times it can be worse. When getting flowers from out, ask the florist to make the bouquet safe for pets.
Accidents happen — If your cat is unhappy, it might pee in places like the bed. It does so because the bed is soft, and smells of you. It wants to feel safe/happy, not because it's angry with you. For smaller accidents or other offensive smells, get a spray from the pet store to eliminate odors. For us it was the type of litter that needed to change. Another time it was a pair of boots that had been outdoors.
When in doubt — Talk to your vet.

Good luck!

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u/skeenerbug Sep 07 '22

Copy pasting a good tip:

Your cat's water bowl should be placed 3-5 feet away from its food bowl. Many cats cannot stand the scent of food near their water. In the wild, mixing food and water often results in bacterial growth and illness. Cats may also want to drink and eat in different places so that they can hide from predators.

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u/PrimarySwan Sep 08 '22

Damn that explains why they always went for the dogs water a few m away from their food and water.

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u/OldKermudgeon Sep 07 '22

Give treats. Cat looks judgey.

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u/Diredoe Sep 07 '22

Cats need wet food. You can still do dry, but in the wild cats get most of their hydration from the meat of their prey. This is especially important for male cats as urine crystals build up easily in their bodies and can be deadly. My cats normally get dry food throughout the day and a can each at night.

Also, read your ingredient labels! The first ingredient should be some sort of animal protein, but if you can find one where the first three or so are that's ace. Lots of times shelters and breeders feed their cats cheap stuff (forgivable for shelters since they rely on donations, less so for breeders) so try and find out what they've been feeding and transition slowly to new to keep them from having tummy issues.

Transitioning to a new food can be tricky because cheap stuff is essentially junk food; the comparison I like to make is that it's like feeding a toddler McDonald's every day and then giving them a salad - of course they're not going to like what's good for them! But keep at it, eventually they'll eat the good stuff.

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u/Watch-Seeker-721 Sep 07 '22

No worries. The cat will have you trained in less than a month.

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u/CutePoliwag Sep 07 '22

Step 1: Give the cat to me it's so cute 😭😭😭

In all seriousness, give him attention or cats will play up and not listen to you.

I was also told cats prefer flowing water to drink, like a little water fountain and not water just chillin in a bowl.

Other important stuff has already been said by others, good luck being a cat owner 😼

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u/MadFxMedia Sep 07 '22

Welcome your new overlord and pray they don't debate jumping on your spleen at 3am.

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u/Low_Bus_5395 Sep 07 '22

Be aware that you will never be allowed to close your bathroom door again...ever. Official cat rules. 😁

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

I’m having a hard time adjusting to this lifestyle… she reaches under the door and plays with the doorstop nonstop if I close the door. So… no more closed door

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u/jordan921 Sep 07 '22

It actually CAN be done. But kitty will be yowling outside the door the entire time you are in there. Our cats don’t come in the bathroom during “business meetings,” but one of my cats does like to play what we call Door Hockey. He will find something to push under the door to us, and we’ll push it back, then he’ll push it back. He loves it lol

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u/Kitcat-cat Sep 07 '22

I should know, they angrily bat their paws under the door and screech at you until you open it

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u/Plunder_Bunny_ Sep 07 '22

Some can open unlocked doors. Mine learned how.

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u/blazingheats Sep 07 '22

Always give it pets, but not on the belly, never on the belly… (unless you want your hand wounded). Also cats are lactose intolerant, don’t give it milk or diary products. Just a bit is fine, but not too much. Congratulations on the cat by the way!

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u/koenigsaurus Sep 07 '22

I know the "don't pet on the belly" is great advice in general, but I will say that one of our cats legitimately loves belly rubs. He will present and stare at you until you give him scratches, then he puts his head back, closes his eyes, and purrs as loud as he can. Only cat I've ever met who actually likes it.

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u/blazingheats Sep 07 '22

True, it definitely depends on the cat. My own cat doesn’t mind belly rubs, he’s very playful so sometimes will ‘fight’ your hand when you rub him

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u/JupiterR301 Sep 07 '22

My cat loves belly rubs whereever, whenever. The key is to scritch them everywhere when they are kittens (bit too late for OP definitely)

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u/TurtleCalledHope Sep 07 '22

For unknown reasons my sweetest baby cat Minnie loves petting on belly. As a matter of fact she starts purring as soon as I touch her, and just loves petting😊 i know most cats don't like petting on belly, but there are rare cases

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u/joekinglyme Sep 07 '22

Give them a kiss on their furry little forehead

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u/feltonvillain Sep 07 '22

You are now his servant. Resistance is futile. Wet food, chin scratches, and calling him a “sweet baby” is now your mission in life.

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u/Cronnok Sep 07 '22

Always try to read the body language. Try to understand what certain tail wiggles mean for example. Its often very clear once you get the hang of it.

For my boy for example if his tail tip is wiggling slowly and formed like a lying questionmark, i should follow him. Sometimes he wants to go out for a walk or just tells me to give him food. The latter gets clearer if i don't react, he will get close and demands quick pets and suddenly returning to his original spot in the same position.

Try to play with her every day if she likes to play. The stimulation is very healthy for her psyche. It prevent her from attacking you or destroying things. Its not necessary to play hours... but at least 15mins. Altho you will notice when the energy is gone. Enjoy the time together! Dont beat yourself up about the responsibility.

Good luck, i wish you both the best!

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u/lidzk2 Sep 07 '22

Haha OP thinks they are the owner

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

I mistyped. I understand my mistake now. My cat has let me know.

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u/elgordon1 Sep 07 '22

Respect the way it wants to be given affection, some cats don’t like to be picked up or touched in certain areas and that’s perfectly fine. Every cat is different and will want you to treat it as such. Other than that, feed, love, respect it.

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u/Hmscaliostro Sep 07 '22

This cat looks like he already knows what he is doing. He is doing a tremendous job and doesn’t need our advice.

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u/flexxx1984 Sep 07 '22

Love him, soooo hard, let him lay on you if he wants to, if he don’t want your kisses, give them to him anyway….I just lost my 16 year old baby boy on Saturday night and I would die to go back for one more kiss from him!!! So my advice is love the shit out of him!!!

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u/dkfay Sep 07 '22

Love the hell out of that cat. Got resting bitch face so it has to be a sweetheart.

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u/Vinrant Sep 07 '22

She is the sweetest

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u/james_otter Sep 07 '22

pet for purr

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u/[deleted] Sep 07 '22

Give it a lil kissy kiss

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u/gentle_viking Sep 07 '22

Keep them inside after dusk and through the night. It may seem cruel, but so many accidents happen when its dark out. We lost our sweet cat one morning when she got out at 5 am and haven’t seen her since. Its been around 5 years and I think of her all the time.

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u/CatCrafter7 Sep 07 '22

Pet your cat :3

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u/ChinchillaToast Sep 07 '22

I really like to teach cats at least one trick because it’s entertaining for them and for me. Usually I go with “high five” because I think it’s the easiest to teach. (Sit is pretty easy to teach, but much less rewarding). It’s also a good way to build trust and to learn how your cat communicates nonverbally.

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u/Sacuz Sep 07 '22

Don't buy them a bed or condo just get them a box

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u/Every-Salary-7710 Korean Bobtail Sep 07 '22

Give her all the love you have, and obey her