r/LifeProTips Sep 07 '22

LPT: Be nice to your bus driver. There may be a time when you're running for the bus and he/she has to make the decision to stop or pretend not to see you. Traveling

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u/codspeace Sep 07 '22

Why not just be nice to everyone?

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u/LuckyandBrownie Sep 07 '22

It’s exhausting. Can’t we all just not be dicks. As a service worker I hate when people are “nice” to me. It feels disingenuous and comes off as they are trying to play me. I like to help people, but just keep it business like.

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u/halfsieapsie Sep 07 '22

Nice isnt patronizing, nice is just not being a dick

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u/XfinityHomeWifi Sep 07 '22

There’s being respectful, then there’s being nice. Being nice is what you do for a friend. Being respectful, a stranger. Being nice to a stranger can come off as patronizing or manipulative if overdone

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u/halfsieapsie Sep 07 '22

It's interesting how people define things, and I am not saying that your definitions are wrong, just different. The way I see things nice is helpful, kind, generous in assumptions, and patient. That's not patronizing. Patronizing is patronizing, and you can do that to a friend as well.

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u/Jackleme Sep 07 '22

My philosophy in life is to be respectful to everyone, until they give me a reason not to be.

It isn't so much being "nice" as it is not being a dick.

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u/Trucclet Sep 07 '22

Wow, I honestly feel kinda bad for you.

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u/PercussiveRussel Sep 07 '22

Lol you're definitely paranoia. I'm nice to everybody because I like humans. I'm especially nice to any (service) worker I interact with because they're doing something for me and that deserves kindness.

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u/Easy-Progress8252 Sep 07 '22

Sounds like you only experience the extremes, dickheads vs sycophants. Those are the ones who stick in the memory. When I was a service worker I intentionally had a short memory for this reason.

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u/stretcharach Sep 07 '22

I have a short memory and have had to live my life around this. I wish I could remember the stories my grandparents shared with me

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u/peon2 Sep 07 '22

Man, you go through life, you try to be nice to people...you struggle to resist the urge to punch 'em in the face. And for what? For some pimply little PUKE that treat you like dirt, unless you're on a TEAAMM

Well, I'm better than dirt. Well, most kinds of dirt. I mean, not that fancy, store-bought dirt. That stuff's loaded with nutrients. I can't compete with that stuff.

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u/Pudding_Hero Sep 07 '22

As a person with experience in the service industry I find it disrespectful to give me the “nice to see you” ecstatic face. Bitch that was me to don’t play me like that

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u/Pihkal1987 Sep 08 '22

Huh. That’s an original take honestly. I try to be kind to people working, and it’s genuine. I’m sorry you feel this way. An interaction can be focused on the task at hand but also have kindness involved as opposed to people treating you like shit/them being smug etc etc.

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u/stretcharach Sep 07 '22

As a service worker, I hate pretending to be nice for the same reason. I try to be as "real" as I can't get fired for lol

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u/CookiesPlays Sep 07 '22

That's the goal we want to get to. But sometimes we just gotta pick someone to start with.

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u/No-Surprise1562 Sep 08 '22

Agreed, should this LPT instead be, “ be nice because it makes living better for those around you and occasionally for your future self (see bus driver example here

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u/Todano Sep 07 '22

LPT: Be nice to your bus driver. There may be a time when you're running for the bus and he/she has to make the decision to stop or pretend not to see you.

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u/Thatguy02x Sep 07 '22

Be nice to those who deserve it*

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u/irisheye37 Sep 07 '22

*Be nice to everyone until they prove they don't deserve it.

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u/Olivier74 Sep 07 '22

Mo better idea, thank you

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u/ForceOfAHorse Sep 09 '22

My parents taught me that, but the older I get, the more I lean towards "be neutral to everyone until they prove they deserve something else".

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u/Todano Sep 07 '22

The people who are miserable are the ones who need it most. Dont be nice to someone just because it benefits you.

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u/Thatguy02x Sep 08 '22

Might work for you, but where I live everyone is miserable and being nice is something I was taught to do since a young age and it never benefitted me in any way except morally.

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u/Thatguy02x Sep 08 '22

Might work for you, but where I live everyone is miserable and being nice is something I was taught to do since a young age and it never benefitted me in any way except morally.

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u/Todano Sep 09 '22

Just because you don't see immediate reaction or response to something you do, does not mean it was for nothing. I'm sure there is something you have done in your life for someone else that you have forgotten, but that person has never forgot about it.

I'd rather have given more kindness than received kindness. You truly will never know how much it impacts someone. I mean comon man, the last time you were in a depression pit, I'm sure you still remember that one person who stood out to you. That's the reward of always being kind.

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u/Todano Sep 08 '22

Being nice gives me serotonin. I can't imagine only being nice to people just so they benefit you better. Being kind is badass

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u/MerberCrazyCats Sep 07 '22

If by being nice you mean say hello and good bye to the driver, I think that's what 99% of people do when taking the bus. Plus showing respect to other passengers like not putting shoes on seats, standing up for those who need a seat, not playing music... As others pointed here, the LPT is more being respectful to everybody. Nice? idk it depends what you mean by nice.

The driver doesn't have to stop or may not be allowed to if someone is running late. Same, if being professional is considered as being nice, they will try to help, within the limits of what they can. I took buses on daily basis in major cities where we usually consider people assholes, but never had bad experience with bus drivers, I'm yet to meet one that is unprofessional. My "kindness" is limited to greet them and pay my ticket

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u/PercussiveRussel Sep 07 '22

And anyway, why would you need to expect something in return to be nice? That sounds very egocentric to me.

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u/hugovongogo Sep 07 '22

I'm a bus driver, more like 20% say hello or acknowledge the driver at all

Apart from that, you're dead right

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u/ForceOfAHorse Sep 09 '22

Imagine that, 50 hellos/goodbyes every a minute or two on a busy line. Driver must love that!

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u/Structureel Sep 07 '22

Honestly, unless you stand out in some way or another, most of the time a bus driver won't remember you. We see so many people get on the bus every day, it's impossible to remember.

A far better tip would be to keep running if you're late and the bus is about to leave. I will always wait if I see someone running to catch my bus. But sometimes I see people running when I'm already late and as soon as they see I'm waiting, they stop running and leisurely stroll to the open door. That's a good way to get on my bad side and I will either close the door anyway or do my best to remember you next time.

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u/TooManyJabberwocks Sep 07 '22

Yeah but what if he isn't allowed or able to stop for you, and being a friend of theirs the guilt takes an emotional toll on them causing them to pick up a drinking habit and start abusing their family

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u/Rizleybear Sep 07 '22

Bro what

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u/Rentlar Sep 07 '22

Had one too many Jabberwocks.

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u/stretcharach Sep 07 '22

This comment reminds me of the picture of that Xbox message saying "You shouldn't bully people I am upset now and my only option is to take it out on my infant son. Hope your happy pal."

Exact quote

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u/Mr_Kittlesworth Sep 07 '22

Or be nice because they’re also people. You shouldn’t determine who you’re nice to based on their usefulness to you.

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u/FearGunner Sep 07 '22

Even if only out of self interest, it pays to be polite and nice to everyone.

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u/Josho94 Sep 07 '22

Instead of "Be nice or they might take revenge", how about we go for "Be nice, being nice makes other people happier".

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u/gna149 Sep 07 '22

Best bus drivers are the ones who are diligent in checking blind spots and not close the door on the old lady who is slow in trying to get off the sidewalk and onto the bus

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u/barouchez Sep 07 '22

So be nice to get things in exchange?

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u/kILLNIk2020 Sep 07 '22

More like don't be a prick.

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u/Tallyrald Sep 07 '22

I feel this could only be valid if you live in a rural area or somewhere with bad/infrequent service. In any - European - decent sized town (or bigger) there could be dozens, hundreds or thousands of bus drivers. Even if you only count lines close to your home or workplace, the chance of seeing the same couple of drivers consistently is very low.

I live in a big city and there are 6 bus lines within 3 mins of walking distance. Imagine the odds.

Then again for rural areas, especially inbetween small towns, there could be a situation where befriending the daily commuting bus driver may save you after spending just a minute too long in the shower.

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u/Ninnua Sep 07 '22

Just be nice to everyone, man

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u/Punanistan Sep 07 '22

This is common courtesy. Far from an LPT. Another crap post on this sub.

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u/Sanderbofficial Sep 07 '22

So, you are nice to a bus driver for just your own good? Fuck that man. What a shit tip

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u/HappyHighwayman Sep 07 '22

I’m sure bus drivers remember what everyone looks like and decides to ignore people they don’t like

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u/kILLNIk2020 Sep 07 '22

You'd be surprised how someone sticks in your mind when they piss you off. Especially if they do it consistently.

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u/Foxsayy Sep 07 '22

One time a bus driver looked me in the eye as I ran to the bus stop, and closed the door a few feet before I got there. I knocked, the only person around, and he pressed the gas...so I sprinted the corner and blocker his exist.

He stared down upon me, the light in his eyes kindled from his usual doleful indifference into an indignant ire.

My eyes mirrored his anger, magnified it, and reflected it back in a smoldering, challenging gaze that screamed "try me!"

Still fully confident in the hulking metal cage between me and the himself, the driver leaned purposefully onto the horn, blaring a long, steady, and unrelentingly loud battle cry of the bud driver.

And yet I stood there, resolutely, like the Tiannamen Square man. The wind from the horn fluttering my collar and coat as it rushed by. This man taunted me. Perhaps he meant to make a point? To save 10 seconds of time?

No. Now he took the point. I took back from him every second he "saved," and I took it with interest.

Not once had the bus driver and I broken eye contact during this entire exchange, and our gazes locked until, finally, I saw the faintest flicker of doubt ripple ever so subtly across his face. For all my verve, my classmates were on the bus...I couldn't hold them forever.

Finally, I stepped aside. Still staring down the driver. There was no Gandalf that day, that driver did pass, but by the end of the day, when I returned home on that bus, everyone knew my name.

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u/Olivier74 Sep 07 '22

How about: “Be nice 24/7” Everybody is trying to get thru the day/ their life. Being nice costs you nothing. Try being nice some more than “usual”. Go ahead, try it.

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u/isaidyothnkubttrgo Sep 07 '22

As my dad is a bus driver I can say this is true...but don't trust it haha. He has some colleagues who are there to drive and that's it. They aren't there to chat or be security on the bus or anything else besides driving and taking your money. I've seen a man's hand touch the closing doors and the driver pulled away still. Some are souless asshats. That includes my dad sometimes haha

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u/sthej Sep 07 '22

Read it as "running from the bus".

kuh-thud, kuh-thud

"Woops, didn't see him."

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u/ObsidianLion Sep 07 '22

Our bus driver looks at you and leaves. Not his fault you weren't there when he stopped.

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u/DontF-zoneMeBro Sep 07 '22

This is soooo true!!

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u/SvedishFish Sep 07 '22

LPT: Be nice to everyone, even if they're grumpy (ESPECIALLY if they're grumpy), and you'll be amazed at how much easier it is to get things done and just navigate life in general.

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u/vainasf Sep 07 '22

Theres times ive waited 40 minutes for the bus and its still gone past me. Fuck the bus drivers.

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u/vainasf Sep 07 '22

Theres times ive waited 40 minutes for the bus and its still gone past me. Fuck the bus drivers.

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u/vainasf Sep 07 '22

Theres times ive waited 40 minutes for the bus and its still gone past me. Fuck the bus drivers.

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u/oportoman Sep 07 '22

You think bus drivers remember passengers?? They might remember the assholes, but that's a ridiculous post

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u/kILLNIk2020 Sep 07 '22

No, of course you're right. Bus drivers can't remember things lol.

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u/KGhaleon Sep 07 '22

LA bus drivers will never stop for you, especially if you're old or disabled.

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u/Polinor Sep 07 '22

You don't need a selfish reason to be nice to someone

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u/HumpieDouglas Sep 07 '22

If I was a bus driver I'd just drive away and laugh as you ran after me. "Ha ha I have the power now!"

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u/kILLNIk2020 Sep 07 '22

I've done it. To the town drunk that threatened me the last time he was on the bus. Never picked him up again.