r/LifeProTips Jul 18 '22 Silver 2 Helpful 8 Wholesome 4 Take My Energy 1 Faith In Humanity Restored 1 Helpful (Pro) 1

LPT: Pay attention when someone flashes their high beams at you Traveling

If you are driving down the road and a passing car flashes their high beams at you give extra attention to your surroundings. There could be a police officer around the next turn, an accident over the next hill, a slow moving vehicle or buggy around a blind curve or a fallen limb from a tree on the road. Don’t slam on your breaks; just give a little extra attention to the road and your surroundings.

If it keeps happening though; check to see if your light or car is the problem. Maybe you forgot to turn your lights on when getting into the car before the sun went down. Maybe you left your high beams on and are making it hard for others to see. Perhaps your low beams need adjusted to better aim on the road and not at oncoming traffic. Or perhaps there’s a person or object surfing on top of your car and you had no clue.

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u/KickedRocket Jul 18 '22

If someone behind you keeps turning on and off their lights it's good to check if your lights are on properly

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u/the_real_log2 Jul 18 '22

Happened this morning! It was pouring rain, I flashed my lights at someone in front of me who didn't have lights on, passed them and he flipped me off! Lol, clueless people

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u/Galkura Jul 18 '22

Had this happen, but at night rather than when it was raining.

Saw this person driving with no lights, flash my brights then flipped my lights on/off. They flipped me off and sped off. Saw them pulled over 5 minutes later lol.

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u/CerebralC0rtex Jul 18 '22

Ahhhh so satisfying that ending

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u/generated_user-name Jul 18 '22

I felt bad about this, not that it was my fault lol

Was riding shotgun in a work truck going way too fast and we passed a real old guy going probably the speed limit. It was a legal pass on a one lane road in Vermont so we hardly ever see cops anyway so let’s speed away. Go up a hill and there’s a guy who flashes his beams. Think nothing of it and a cop is waiting over the hill, we slam on the brakes to the speed limit with our fingers crossed, which caused the safe driver to get pretty damn close and we see him get pulled over.

I now drive like that old guy now

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u/CerebralC0rtex Jul 18 '22

Oh jeeze. I have a horror story when I was younger driving in upstate New York. I’m stuck behind a guy going super slow in the fog, and I’m young and cool and haven’t had life drag me down to earth from being a dumbass, so despite a turn coming up and their being no dotted single yellow line on the road, I speed ahead of the guy. Right. Before. The. Turn. That’s dumb enough, but of course someone begins to come around the turn as I’m passing this guy, so I shit my pants and speed into the lane, barely eclipsing the guy behind me, and with maybe 10-15 feet of space between myself and the guy opposite (I’m probably going 60-70 on this narrow road so that’s not a ton of space). He was, of course, beeping like a mad man and i sped off, quite ashamed myself.

I didn’t get an old man pulled over, but I almost got into a really stupid accident endangering at least two other people.

I, too, drive a lot safer now.

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u/Just_L00k1ng_ Jul 19 '22

I’ve been searching for you for years.

Let’s have a talk about your driving young man…

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u/Klassieprof Jul 19 '22

User name checks out.

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u/craftyhobbit6277 Jul 19 '22

Your the reason insurance is unaffordable for young men.

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u/thehighquark Jul 18 '22

The code I grew up with is high beam flash if they have their high beams on or flash to pass. If you're warning for a cop, it's lights on-off-off-on-off . But to expand. FUCK ME. Look it up in the owners manual people. The ability to flick your HIGH beams on & off is LITERALLY called the "flash to pass" feature. So many no lane discipline having knuckleheads take that shit so personally when doing 5 under in the left lane.

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u/GabrielofAstora Jul 19 '22

I don't get these people. Why would you assume so thing and be a complete dick by flipping them off. I guess they are insecure and live miserable lives, or they are just stupid.

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u/LeeLooPeePoo Jul 18 '22

Did this to a couple of young ladies in a truck just after dusk the other day and they actually turned their lights on. It was the first time in ages it actually worked

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u/Classy_Account Jul 18 '22

What I have started doing instead is turning my lights on and off when someone does not have them on. Similar effect but without the high beams.

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u/brjgto Jul 18 '22 edited Jul 18 '22

Yes. On and Off means their lights should be on. Today, usually means the DRLs are so bright, they think they have their lights On when they do not.

Flashing the brights at on coming traffic means several things but usually a “smokey “ waiting to snag someone coming down a hill too fast for a ticket, or a Ford pickup with headlamps that are too high/too bright for the oncoming traffic. Those receiving flashes should know by default if they are conscious.

And then again flashing your brake pedal to someone behind you, can mean several things. They are too close behind, brights in your eyes from a rear view mirror, or just break checking due to slow traffic ahead.

There are more signs, but drivers should be aware of these rather than texting on their phones….

PS. American highways are so full of people with no clue! The most used flashing of brights is when people “camp” in the left lane even though it is for passing only! Half the time those camped in the left lane can’t see behind them, because the way they adjust the rear view mirror is by raising their head (and eyes) above normal, so when they relax into the seat they no longer can see the road behind them! They probably don’t realize they raise their head just to look into the rearview mirror. See it all the time! SMH🤷‍♂️

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u/[deleted] Jul 18 '22

never heard of flashing brake lights, i compulsively pump my brakes even though I know it's not usually necessary so people probably think I'm doing this all the time lol

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u/drifters74 Jul 18 '22

Shouldn’t it be habit to turn your lights on instead of hoping that they turn on automatically or something?

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u/the_real_log2 Jul 18 '22

So I'm in Canada, and it's mandatory that your daytime running lights are on at all times. But the DRL doesn't turn your tail lights on. So people think their lights are on when they're not all the time

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u/In-The-Cloud Jul 18 '22

I was taught to always turn my lights on for this very reason. It's just habit now that when I turn the car on, the lights go on too. I also put the E brake on every time I park. Young Drivers habits are hard to break!

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u/TheRedCuddler Jul 18 '22

I always e-brake too! My childhood home had a sloping driveway so my parents taught me to always e-brake when I parked. I've had many exes and friends give me shit over it, but there's no harm in it so I'll keep e-braking.

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u/11thstalley Jul 18 '22

I thought everybody used their emergency brake when they parked. My car has a manual transmission and I also leave the car in gear when I park.

Do you turn your front wheels towards the curb when you park on a downward slope, and towards the street when parking on an uphill slope? I do.

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u/Aeoyiau Jul 18 '22

I live in an area that you cannot trust the parking brake on used vehicles. We have serious rust-due-to-salt problems so if its never been used or it's been years.... well she ain't gonna move, but it's not exactly something people tend to remember to ask.

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u/2018birdie Jul 18 '22

Up up and away! Like superman. That's how I was taught

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u/Strange_Carrot_830 Jul 18 '22

u/11thstalley TIL this LPT here. Is it to bump into the curb downhill and to reverse out of the spot, thus avoilind hitting the car behind if brakes fail?

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u/11thstalley Jul 18 '22 edited Jul 19 '22

If for some reason the car pops out of gear and the emergency brake fails, the car would turn into the curb to stop it from rolling down hill, depending on which way you leave the wheels turned…towards the curb if you’re headed downhill, or away from the curb if your headed uphill. This last bit is counterintuitive, but if your car is parked on a hill heading uphill, your car will be going backwards and the back of the right front wheel will hit the curb and stop it from rolling downhill and hitting another parked car or into traffic.

I hope that I explained it well enough.

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u/Strange_Carrot_830 Jul 19 '22

Thanks. Had to think about the uphill version with fresh eyes this morning. Makes sense now!

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u/northyj0e Jul 18 '22

I'm sorry, am I reading this right? Some people don't put their handbrake on?

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u/DaddyBeanDaddyBean Jul 18 '22

It is common for US drivers to set the handbrake on a car with a manual transmission, and very UNcommon to set the e-brake on an automatic, and the VAST majority of cars in the US are automatics. In parts of the country that get a lot of snow (and therefore a lot of salt on the roads), it's not unusual for the e-brake system to get locked up due to the combination of rust and disuse. Where I live, we are required to get a "safety inspection" every year; among many other things, it requires that all components of the e-brake system must be present and intact ... but does not mandate that they actually work. As long as you have the lever, the actuator on the back of the wheel hub, and an intact cable connecting the one to the other, you're good, even if it has all rusted into a single piece of metal.

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u/northyj0e Jul 18 '22

As long as you have the lever, the actuator on the back of the wheel hub, and an intact cable connecting the one to the other, you're good, even if it has all rusted into a single piece of metal.

I'd argue that if your lever or actuator is rusted solid, it's no longer a lever or actuator.

But regardless, I am completely blown away by this, can someone assure me that it's not some kind of national prank like drop bears for Australians

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u/EnoughIdeas Jul 18 '22

Oh don't worry we also have areas without inspections. I believe some states even have inspections on the county level so it can vary drastically over a 20mile range.

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u/dogburglar42 Jul 18 '22 edited Jul 19 '22

I can't speak to the inspection aspect, as where I'm from we didn't do that; but yeah in a manual it's the parking brake, you put it on when you park, and in an automatic it's mostly a vestigial limb

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u/DaddyBeanDaddyBean Jul 18 '22

http://www.dot.state.pa.us/Public/DVSPubsForms/BMV/BMV%20Manuals/Pub_45%20Inspections%20Regulations/SubchapterE.pdf

It doesn't exactly prove my point, but it basically says "the parking brake system has to exist", and it doesn't say "it has to be tested".

Anecdotally, I've had two vehicles fail inspection from a broken cable - inspected at two different shops - and both passed subsequent reinspection when the mechanic looked under the car and said "yep, I see a new cable". Conversely, I have had at least three instances where a vehicle had passed inspection within the previous year, when I discovered on my own that the alleged actuator was rusted solid. Fortunately it is usually possible to free them up again with repeated applications of heat, cold water, PB Blaster, and wiggling the jiggly bits.

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u/altodor Jul 18 '22

I set it on my automatic otherwise I can shove the car and it rocks on the parking pin. I'm not a fan of that, so I just set the brake.

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u/ScoobyDoo27 Jul 18 '22

I just bought a new Tundra and when you put it into park and keep your foot on the brake it automatically applies the parking brake. I thought that was really cool feature. I am one of those people who uses the emergency/parking brake regardless if it’s a manual or auto.

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u/NoMoOmentumMan Jul 18 '22

Just sold a car, and the buyer came back and asked about the brake light thing illuminated on the dash. I told her it was for the e-brake/parking brake, and she looked at me like I had 2 heads. When I showed her how to use it, she looked at me like I had 3 heads.

I played it off as no big deal; we're in the midwest and there are no hills and I learned to drive on the west coast in a hilly city so it's habit. I only did this so as to not to ruin the deal.

I weep for what becomes of that car.

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u/YellowBreakfast Jul 18 '22

Yeah I guess this is becoming a thing.

For me it's as automatic as putting it in "park".

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u/stellvia2016 Jul 18 '22

This. I see it way too often now that people are driving without tail lights. Especially in more urban areas where there may be street lights that hide the fact you're only using DRL. Doubly so since instrument panels are now lit all the time, so you can't use that as a clue you're only using DRL.

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u/Pegar60 Jul 18 '22

My car is Charcoal grey. It blends in well with the pavement. Even though I have daytime running lights I always turn on my headlights do the tail lights also come on. Especially in foggy weather.

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u/ColourBlindPower Jul 18 '22

What's even worse is some car manufacturers have it so that if you have just your DRL on, your dashboard is super bright. So there's no good indication that the lights are off.

Other manufacturers have the dashboard backlight very dim if you have the lights in "off" position (DRL)

The most ideal is GM that now has the lights stuck in "auto", with the only options for the driver is manually forcing all markers or headlights on. There is an "off" position, but it springs the dial back into "auto", and the only way to shut the lights fully off is holding it in "off" for a second or so, and while the car is not in motion. Once you drive off, they turn back on, into auto again.

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u/JibbityJabbity Jul 18 '22

OMG! I'm Canadian too and that is my biggest driving peeve! And the number of idiots who have no clue as to why I'm flashing my high beams at them from behind is astounding!

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u/Konpochiro Jul 18 '22

Honestly, I have gotten used to my lights just turning on automatically so I sometimes forget. I wish they came on when you used the windshield wipers or something. I normally remember when I think to myself “That guy should have his lights on - Oh shit MY LIGHTS ARENT ON!”

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u/bassmadrigal Jul 18 '22

I wish they came on when you used the windshield wipers or something.

My Ford Fusion does this! Such a simple feature that many cars don't have...

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u/OtherAcctTrackedNSA Jul 18 '22

My Hyundai Elantra turns the lights fully on after my wipers have been running for a minute.

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u/mrcluelessness Jul 18 '22

Ya it sucks when you turn them off because you're parking facing a building, or going through say a security checkpoint and don't want to blind the guards. Then you drive and wonder why it is so dark now.

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u/ARandomBob Jul 18 '22

I just leave mine on auto. They're on if the car is on. That's made me super lazy and forgetful though. I drove my partners car a few weeks back around dusk and someone flashed their lights at me which reminded me. Felt like a dumbass, but it can happen. Also if you have your lights on auto always check them after you take it to a shop. The mechanic probably turned them off so they can work on your car while it's running and not be blinded.

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u/lapsangsouchogn Jul 18 '22

I leave mine on auto too, but when my husband borrows the car he turns them off. Leaves his own truck lights on auto, but turns them off in my car!

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u/80H-d Jul 18 '22

Check your life insurance

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u/mssqwerl Jul 18 '22

I love my partner. I do. But I curse the day he was born every time I get in my car and he has turned off the auto lights.

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u/ShillinTheVillain Jul 18 '22

I'm that husband, but it's a force of habit. My wife's last car didn't have an auto setting, and we had it for 10 years, so it became a habit to manually turn them on and off. Now lizard brain says "this wife car. Turn headlight off," even though it's no longer necessary.

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u/_bones__ Jul 18 '22

My lights are always on. It's built into the car that when I start it they turn on, when I turn off the engine and open the driver side door they turn off.

You can turn them off completely, but why.

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u/ImRedditorRick Jul 18 '22

Happens to me all the time. When did they stop teaching this?

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u/Caracasdogajo Jul 18 '22

I had someone do this to me yesterday... My kid was in the front seat while we were parked earlier that day and had flipped my lights off auto...

Some dude kept flashing his lights and I was in the fast lane with someone right in front of me. I thought he was trying to tell me to get over and was getting really pissed.

5 minutes later I realized and felt like an absolute idiot.

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u/flamingoeater Jul 18 '22

Hah, I'd just shrug and let fate take them. I tried, my dude.

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u/Shtinky Jul 18 '22

It kinda sucks because their fate might also affect someone else's.

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u/AshJunSong Jul 18 '22

Or check if there is a ghost on your backseat

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u/TheCzar11 Jul 18 '22

“I’ll give you a ride”.

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u/UncoolSlicedBread Jul 18 '22 edited Jul 18 '22

I’ve seen them used for so much.

  • Something in the road/crash ahead

  • Speed trap or someone pulled over

  • Slow down

  • Your light are off

  • Urban legend in the Midwest that it’s a gang initiation and they want you to flash back so they know to kill you

A few weeks ago I was driving home from a friends house and I was allegedly speeding. I passed a U-Haul at one point and kept on my way.

A few hundred feed away the U-Haul flashes his lights. I check my mirrors, my lights, my car and nothing. Did he flash his lights?

He does it again, but this time twice. So now I slow down because I assume there’s a speed trap ahead. Then I see a car whip around his truck and as it approaches I realize it’s a cop. The cop passes by and keeps going.

The guy was warning me of a cop because he knew I was speeding**. What a bro.

Edit: Allegedly. (Thanks /u/iceman012)

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u/averagethrowaway21 Jul 18 '22

Gang stuff was so popular on TV in the 90s that every tiny rural town was convinced they were about to be set upon.

Back in the mid 00s a friend of mine had a petition together to build a small skateboarding area in an unused portion of a dilapidated park. He got a bunch of signatures, was going to fund it through donations, and it was going to be a community project.

Project denied because they were scared that gangs would congregate there in a tiny rural town in Texas. Someone said that the east coast and west coast gangs would meet there to fight.

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u/DerangedPuP Jul 18 '22

Grew up in what was a rural town in southern TN. Went out to dinner with the family. Was probably only 13, had a blue bandana in my pocket that was poking out a bit. Only have it because it's humid as hell in the summer, and I like dirt. They're perfect for wiping sweat and dusting off. Mom flips out saying gangs were going to think I was in one and that they'd kill me.

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u/iceman012 Jul 18 '22

The guy was warning me of a cop because he knew I was speeding.

Allegedly.

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u/machina99 Jul 18 '22
  • Urban legend in the Midwest that it’s a gang initiation and they want you to flash back so they know to kill you

More than just the Midwest; I went to school in Stockton, CA and people were saying the same things and that in general to never honk or flash your lights at anyone for any reason.

Now that I think about it I think it maybe it was just a way to excuse all the shitty drivers for being shitty drivers....

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u/omozzy Jul 18 '22

I'm from Sacramento and tbh, just breathing wrong in Stockton is like a death wish so I certainly wouldnt flash my lights at anyone there lmao

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u/MrJacks0n Jul 18 '22

High Beams on is another one.

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u/quinto6 Jul 18 '22

Had someone at night at so light without their lights on. I flashed my lights as well as turned them on and off several times while at a stop light. I was in the drive straight lane and there was a car in the turn lane across the street of oncoming lane. When the light finally turned green (they didn't have a turn green arrow, was just a default red/green light), they started to turn and go when I started to go. They thought I was indicating for them to go first...

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u/stellvia2016 Jul 18 '22

I wish there was a canned set of warnings like "Your lights aren't on" that could be transmitted to nearby cars for stuff like this. Would have to be limited to prevent abuse and maybe even a limit of every 10mins to prevent someone spamming it for fun.

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u/quinto6 Jul 18 '22

I've thought about trying to rig up some sort of display in rear window or passenger side front windshield for people in regards to their speed limits. I've been behind people going well under the speed limit in town (a few times can visibly see them holding their phone) or people riding my ass while driving when I'm going the speed limit, or usually 5 miles over, tailgating.

Really wanted and still want a retired police interceptor with the console/speaker still setup so I can verbally berate shitheads over the loud speaker

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u/cortesoft Jul 18 '22

I hate when people flash their lights at me, because then I have to murder them as part of my gang initiation.

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u/Oremor Jul 18 '22

Thank you!! Took me forever reading shit about handbrakes looking for you!!

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u/Poguemohon Jul 18 '22

It means the killer in the back seat is attempting to stab you. Thanks "Scary Stories to Tell in the Dark".

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u/Maleficent-Eagle4262 Jul 18 '22

When i lived in the country side of Georgia, it would be "turn down your beams" or "there's a cop". People in Elpaso doesn't do any of these.

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u/[deleted] Jul 18 '22

Yeah, I did this once and they ignored me. They were driving a black SUV too. Completely oblivious.

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u/catcommentthrowaway Jul 18 '22

I did this to someone the other night and they kept flicking through their different light settings and only their front lights were changing. I was like wtf is wrong with your car bruh 😭

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u/Justanotheroldog Jul 18 '22 Facepalm

If I see a deer I’ll definitely flash people I pass to warn them

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u/Kradget Jul 18 '22

I usually do for deer, pedestrians (who also need to not be hit by cars), and cops if I see one posted up. Basically any situation where I'd want to know to proceed with caution and pay extra attention.

It's also a decent way to signal you're holding position to let a truck move over on the highway - that used to be how they'd let each other know.

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u/goddess54 Jul 18 '22

I do it for all trucks that pass me. Lets them know I'm safely out of their way, and paying attention! Usually gets a flick of indicators as a 'Thank you'.

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u/PM_ME_GLUTE_SPREAD Jul 18 '22

I’m always so bummed when I don’t get the “thank you” flick back but I’ll always give a flash when they need it. Safety shouldn’t require appreciation, but it’s still nice lol

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u/darkdesertedhighway Jul 18 '22

I do this for truckers, too. One time, when I let a rig move over in front of me, he lit his whole rig up like a Christmas tree, marker lights and all blinking. I was tickled pink.

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u/gurmzisoff Jul 18 '22

I almost always get the "thank you" blink from truckers. A courtesy wave for letting a person into a line of traffic? Not as common.

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u/PM_ME_GLUTE_SPREAD Jul 18 '22

Oh for sure, much more common from truckers than it is regular motorists.

I also seem to get it more often when I’m hauling something myself.

Sort of a “brotherhood” type of thing if I had to guess.

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u/yourlmagination Jul 18 '22

As a truck driver, it's appreciated. A lot of people just hang out at the end of the trailer, and it's difficult to tell if we had enough room to get over or not

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u/ShillinTheVillain Jul 18 '22 Wholesome Eureka!

I do it just so I get the flashy trailer lights. Your safety is an unintended benefit.

GIVE ME FLASHY LIGHT!

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u/sigdiff Jul 18 '22

But what we really all want is for the semi to honk their horn at us when we do the arm pump thing. I feel like a lot of them don't do that anymore and it makes me sad.

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u/yourlmagination Jul 18 '22 Take My Power

I do it any time I see it. Not many people do the arm pump thing anymore.

Lame part is my air horn is.... Well, in the steering wheel, so I pretend to pull the cord

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u/DarthYsalamir Jul 18 '22

You're an angel!

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u/skelatinous-goop Jul 18 '22

On my last road trip I had with my mom before she passed, she hung out the window the entire time and kept pumping her arm at every truck she saw. Most obliged! It's one of my favorite videos I still have of her 😊😊😊

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u/Teknikal_Domain Jul 18 '22

They still do, actually. Flash to indicate there's enough space to move, flash to indicate your 5 minute battle with the car behind you who keeps making the decision to pass has finally said "fine, I'm staying here, get over," flash to indicate caution ahead...

What can't be said on CB can be said by using the flash-to-pass lever like it's the horn button in India.

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u/md22mdrx Jul 18 '22

My uncle from College Station called it “Texas friendly driving” … but I’ve done it no matter what state I’m in.

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u/GreasyPeter Jul 18 '22

Take that shit up to California. People are allergic to turn signals there. I moved back to Washington and was surprised when I could TELL WHAT THE OTHER DRIVERS WERE DOING simply because they signalled. Imagine that?

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u/broken-records Jul 18 '22

Happened to me last month but with a cow instead of a deer. Was driving a mountain road with fairly steep hill up and down on either side. Had two cars flash their lights at me so knew something was up and slowed down enough and put my window down and heard the second driver yell "cow" out their window. Sure enough there were two cows around a fairly sharp turn in the road.

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u/dibblah Jul 18 '22

I drive in the countryside every day and yeah this is what we do to warn of farm animals in the road. Especially in lamb season, when they tend to escape easily and just hang out in the centre of the road. Although some people don't like you flashing them and will get angry if you do.

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u/Triarag Jul 19 '22

One time many years ago, a friend and I were driving through the country and there was a cow in the middle of the road. About half a mile down the road there was a farmhouse that had cows, so we went and knocked on the door to tell them there was a cow out on the road.

The guy just said okay and looked absolutely pissed that we bothered him about this.

The whole place was some creepy Deliverance shit, so we just left. Did we commit some kind of faux pas by telling this man that his cow was on the road? Is this expected behavior for countryside cows?

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u/nnnoooeee Jul 18 '22

Sees another deer

sigh

Opens trenchcoat

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u/doctorwhoobgyn Jul 18 '22

I'm glad I'm not the only person who thought this.

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u/Rajili Jul 18 '22

We went to Estes Park, CO in May. Several cars flashed us on the way in. Came up on a herd of elk next to the road. Really cool!!

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u/xPav_ Jul 18 '22

flash your headlights, right? right?

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u/stoic_amoeba Jul 18 '22

Literally did this yesterday. I didn't even realize it was a deer until I would've been too close to do anything about it. Figured other people may want to know

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u/GoofAckYoorsElf Jul 18 '22

I tend to use the hazards for that. Flashers are a bit too ambiguous, if you ask me.

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u/P4t13nt_z3r0 Jul 18 '22

I too wave my penis at traffic if I see a deer.

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u/Krogg Jul 18 '22

I usually throw on the hazard lights for a few flashes at those going the opposite direction in case of deer/Elk. Especially at night.

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u/alexaboyhowdy Jul 18 '22

I was flashed just a few days ago and turns out that around the corner was a bad accident with lots of EMS on scene.

No traffic on the road but it was a good warning to slow down and be extra focused.

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u/DogLikesSocks Jul 18 '22

Thank you for not hitting us :)

Seriously a lot of people don’t seem to pay attention even with the flashing lights and high vis vests.

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u/alexaboyhowdy Jul 18 '22

I don't know if it's because I've gotten older or because people have gotten stupider since COVID, but so many people want to tailgate and change lanes constantly and speed!

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u/dylan15766 Jul 18 '22

I remember coming back from a festival and on this one road there was lots of traffic in the oncoming lane. We got flashed by 5 different people so we pulled over to check the car. After looking over the car for 5 minutes we finally noticed a speed camera van just down the road. We felt like right idiots.

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u/SleepLittleSamurai Jul 18 '22

I was on my way home after a shift at retail on blackfriday which started that thursday night. Then we all left for like 5 hrs and were back to open the next morning. Middle of deer season and I had seen a buck the other evening so I was driving cautiously. I got through a stop sign (after stopping) and maybe 25ft in I have to stop for a huge buck. Then a literal dozen of deer prance out of the little clearing in the woods by the road and cross to the other side. The buck meanders across but there are another handful of deer hanging out at the edge of the clearing still. I take my gap and pulled through and kept moving cautiously home.

I see a car approaching going fast and flicked my lights on and off several times to warn them of the impending shitshow. They turned their brights on only until the passed me and had the driver window down to flip me off.....that was the most satisfying breaks locking up sound I have ever heard. The good news is I saw no blood or carcass on the side of the road the next day but I bet they had the shit scared out of them.

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u/redditisnowtwitter Jul 18 '22

Lol. All of these comments make me wonder what % of flashers are for deer. 90%? 99?

I just did this a few days ago but made sure to flash very fast like a flicker. That's my polite flash. And it worked thankfully

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u/Legal-Ad7793 Jul 18 '22

I think this month I've used my flashers 3 times for deer. Gotta pay extra attention cuz they're everywhere this time of year!

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u/AnnaZa Jul 18 '22

I live in Tasmania, my night ride home is 15 mins, within this period I stop for wallabies 3-5 times and flash accordingly.

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u/2lovesFL Jul 18 '22

I see about 15% of cars with no tail lights, and headlights.

they have dash lights and headlights and have no idea they are dark in the rear.

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u/Era555 Jul 18 '22

The amount of cars that drive with their headlights off at night and during rain is ridiculous.

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u/ertrinken Jul 19 '22

I accidentally had my headlights off once and had just pulled out of my parking garage that was in an area with lots of drunken fratbros. One guy crossing the street started gesturing at me in my car and I was getting progressively more annoyed until I realized he was trying to tell me my headlights were off. Oh… sorry I thought you were a douchebag, dude.

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u/kissmygame17 Jul 18 '22

Moved to Maryland from NYC, people here have no clue

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u/FlatBrokenDown Jul 18 '22

I flash my lights to tell the jackass coming towards me their highbeams are still on.

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u/henkie316 Jul 18 '22

AND THEN THEY DON'T TURN THEM OFF

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u/Georgicus132 Jul 18 '22

Or worse they somehow turn on EVEN brighter lights

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u/henkie316 Jul 18 '22

Yes. My god. Those LED's on SUV's are terrible

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u/Dmacxxx77 Jul 18 '22

Yeah I hate those. And then around where I live people mount LED light bars to their trucks and drive around with those on and you literally can't see shit with one of those coming the other way.

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u/henkie316 Jul 18 '22

That's the neat part of not living in the US. You don't get the portable suns on pick up trucks. I feel you tho

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u/MOLEGANG-AFFILIATED Jul 18 '22

Don’t even flash your brights, just turn yours on and keep them on until they turn theirs off. Half the time they don’t even turn theirs off and we end up passing each other. I don’t play these games anymore with stupid drivers

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u/fuckfuckfuckSHIT Jul 18 '22

I can't even tell anymore if people have their high beams on or not because the lights are all so damn bright.

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u/Geistzeit Jul 19 '22

Last time I flashed my high beams at someone because I thought they had theirs on - turns out they just had those super bright regular headlights ... which I learned because they flashed their actual high beams and nearly seared my eyes out of my head.

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u/spo0ky_cat Jul 19 '22

I typically do not drive at night for many reasons, but I used to get off work at 10pm every day, and the whole drive home I’d be on the phone complaining to my bf about all of these assholes driving down the roads with their highbeams on. Finally, about a month into the job, he had to pick me up for some reason. Driving home in the dark, I kept up the tirade against the other drivers, and it finally clicked for him I just can’t see around those regular but super bright white LEDs. The look on his face when he got to tell me those are regular head lights…lol

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u/RossLH Jul 18 '22

I bet there's a significant percentage of time you're just seeing the HID low beams on GM cars. They're awful.

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u/GummiVenusdeMilo_ Jul 18 '22

Someone in Texas recently got shot in the face for doing this. Road rage is crazy nowadays.

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u/FlatBrokenDown Jul 18 '22

Nothing more Texan than manchildren commiting murder over stupid shit.

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u/stallion-mang Jul 18 '22

Same except most of the time it's just low beams on ridiculous bro dozers. So flashing them means getting blasted with 10kW worth of light bars that aren't legal to use on the road.

Of course many just drive with the light bar on anyway.

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u/NickTM-AZ Jul 18 '22

The amount of people who don't realize their high beams are on is ridiculous.

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u/ghostmaster645 Jul 18 '22

I accidentally flashed mine the other night when there was an ant on my arm.

Poor guy was probably on edge.

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u/EDCxTINMAN Jul 18 '22

Good on you warning him about the ants up ahead

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u/dutchkimble Jul 18 '22

Or the surfers smoking weed on top of his car

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u/Ripleyof9 Jul 18 '22

Idk man, in my experience ants don't really give a fuck about anything

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u/CarrotChunx Jul 18 '22

I was making out with someone in my car, pulled over on a quiet road ~3am. Just as a car passed, the girl accidentally leaned on the horn and held it for a while. That was months ago and i still feel bad for how spooked the driver must have been

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u/Roxxemidus Jul 18 '22

The amount of people who I've tried to warn that their lights are off just for them to get pissy is astounding

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u/gonejellyfishin77 Jul 18 '22

Yeah I don't bother anymore. Let them figure it out.

There's an intersection in my neighborhood where only north/south has a stop sign. There's signage there that says oncoming traffic does not stop. Most drivers stop and then just go without even looking for oncoming traffic. I honk at them when they pull out right in front of me. I get flipped off EVERY SINGLE TIME lol

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u/catsby90bbn Jul 18 '22

A few years ago I was sitting behind a car at a stop light that turned green. I gave them a solid 4-5 second count, like slow counting, before I gave the quickest toot of my horn I could muster. Dudes look up, flip me off then peel out.

I’ve mostly stopped doing any horn toots or flashes since then.

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u/blushingcatlady Jul 19 '22

I am always SO touched when someone flashes their lights at me. It’s like a tiny sense of community in the moment. I’ve never had someone respond well to me flashing my lights at them, but I’m never going to stop because I hope someday someone is happy I did. I always wave when cars let me in when I’m merging. I guess it’s silly, but it’s the little things in life :)

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u/regkaz Jul 18 '22

Check your roof. You put the baby basket on the roof while you loaded the front seat.

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u/Monosodium- Jul 18 '22

Good tip, but I would hope this is common knowledge amongst drivers.

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u/braedon77 Jul 18 '22

The other day I was driving in my neighborhood and had a pizza guy coming towards me from the opposite direction. There were cars parked on the side so one of us was going to have o let the other through which I was going to. The pizza guy simultaneously flashes his lights and proceeds to take off past me. He really used his beams to signal that he was going to go, not that he was letting me through. So you’d be shocked my friend.

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u/tredbobek Jul 18 '22

When I was learning to drive, the teacher told us a story about an accident:

Car wanted to turn onto a country road (intercity road? I don't know what they are called in english. Main road between cities), but a truck was coming. Truck flashed, car thought it means "go ahead, I yield", but no, it was an "I'm coming"..

I think in the story the trucker was from another country. So yeah, never fully trust a flash, check the speed

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u/ugly_mouth Jul 18 '22

I have always understood flashing lights or high beams to mean “attention.” From then on I look for context cues to determine “to what?”.

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u/tredbobek Jul 18 '22

That's a good way to put it

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u/klepon- Jul 18 '22

In my country, drivers signalling high beams means that they're asking for right of way, not giving it.

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u/north213 Jul 18 '22

What country? That's super interesting how it's the opposite!

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u/klepon- Jul 18 '22

Indonesia

Even my friend says that she almost crashed driving here because she thought the other driver flashing was giving her the way lol

We're just very arrogant when it comes to driving i suppose

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u/DovahSheep1 Jul 18 '22

You would be really surprised by what is not common knowledge amongst drivers.

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u/stellvia2016 Jul 18 '22

How to drive is not common knowledge amongst drivers.

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u/cli337 Jul 18 '22

So is using one's blinkers to signal a turn, but...

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u/h-bugg96 Jul 18 '22

Even though I understand this piece of "common knowledge" when a truck flashed me I checked my lights and everything and decided nothing was wrong. I then promptly ran over a tree in the road. It was likely just a large branch but it fucked my car up. Only cosmeticly thankfully but my cars front bumper is now held up by bungies.

You might think you would have done it differently but in the time it took me to check that my lights were on and my hughbeams weren't. Well. There it was. The actual reason

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u/mailorderman Jul 18 '22

What if they are simultaneously rubbing their stomach

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u/CraftyFlipper Jul 19 '22

Cops with donuts.

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u/srcorvettez06 Jul 18 '22 edited Jul 18 '22

If you’re the one flashing someone make sure you only flash them. I had someone turn on their high beams and off road lights blinding me. I then hit a downed tree at 50mph totaling my truck. If the person had flashed their lights I would have seen it and stopped with plenty of time.

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u/redditisnowtwitter Jul 18 '22

I just do like the shortest of micro flashes so that won't happen

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u/srcorvettez06 Jul 18 '22

That’s perfect. I though that guy was just another idiot who left their high beams on.

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u/capital-d_colon Jul 18 '22

Learned this lesson recently. Had two people flash high beams at me. Assumed they wanted my lights turned on (sun was beginning to set), so I turned them on. Ends up there was a cop running radar behind some trees. Got myself a ticket. You wouldn’t believe how dumb I felt.

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u/Taran_McDohl Jul 18 '22

A few years ago I left a birthday and it was raining furiously. There was this long and steep road that i had to go down to get home. Half way down a guy flashed his lights at me 5 to 6 times. I slowed down and turned my brights on so I could see better. A huge tree had fallen across my lane. If that guy had not flashed me i would have hit that tree going 45 mph.

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u/snark_attak Jul 18 '22

If that guy had not flashed me i would have hit that tree going 45 mph.

A basic competency of driving is not exceeding a safe speed for the visibility conditions. If hard rain (or fog or any other factor) keeps you from seeing further than your stopping distance (reaction time plus actual braking distance), you need to slow down. Good thing someone was able to help you out with that. You should always make sure you are aware of your stopping distance in the conditions that you're driving in and make sure to adjust your speed accordingly when visibility is less than that distance, just in case there is not someone to remind you next time.

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u/Gaardc Jul 18 '22

This is why those who rear-end others are considered to blame in most cases. They’re supposed to be driving at a reasonable stopping distance and speed, that they hit you means either they weren’t or weren’t paying attention (which doesn’t absolve them from fault).

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u/ImagineTheCommotion Jul 18 '22

You are right, but it’s possible the fallen tree was around a bend in the road or otherwise in a difficult-to-see-far-in-advance location.

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u/JohnWhatSun Jul 19 '22

Also a fallen tree is very large and harder to avoid than other common obstacles like a rock, an animal or even a pedestrian. Going a reasonable speed and coming around a corner to see a giant tree blocking a whole lane is different than tailgating someone on a rainy night. Driving will never be risk free, even if you act safely.

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u/GronakHD Jul 18 '22

You can also be fined for doing this in Britain, it’s not allowed (ofc people do it all the time, but have heard stories of people getting £200 fines for doing it)

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u/marigolds6 Jul 18 '22

Driving with your brights on and flashing your brights is protected speech in most of he US thanks to a series of ACLU cases over the last couple of decades. e.g. This was the case for Missouri.

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u/Uglysinglenearyou Jul 18 '22 edited Jul 18 '22

While the article does mention flashing your lights is okay, it does not say driving with your brights on is okay. Hey dumbfuck Arizona drivers; that blue headlight indicator on the dash does not imply extra coolness. It means your brights are on.

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u/marigolds6 Jul 18 '22

The laws and ordinances that got overturned in Missouri were never reinstated, and the same laws and ordinances governed both driving with your brights on and flashing them. So while it's not explicitly legalized, there is no longer anything specifically making it illegal.

As someone with glare sensitivity living in Missouri, I'm well aware of this. I had to cut back significantly on my night driving now that so many people just drive with their brights on all the time here.

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u/np20412 Jul 18 '22

the worst is people who have a low beam out and so they use their high beams to drive instead of just fixing their fucking light

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u/jmbtrooper Jul 18 '22

Yep. Obstruction of police duty or something like that. Which always struck me as a dick move on the part of the police as surely the objective of the speed trap is achieved (slowing people down at that point specifically) unless the primary objective of the speed trap is to convict people.

It feels no different to me than speed camera warning signs. I've never understood a legitimate reason for it because it all just feels entirely underhanded.

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u/StaysAwakeAllWeek Jul 18 '22

unless the primary objective of the speed trap is to convict people.

The primary objective is to raise money for the police pizza party

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u/hydrospanner Jul 18 '22

Polizza Party

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u/King_Dead Jul 18 '22

They're just giving out tickets to the Policeman's Ball

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u/TheVoicesSayHi Jul 18 '22

Don't be silly it was just a party, the police don't have balls

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u/destructivecupcake Jul 18 '22

You weren’t warning them about the police, it was the cat in the road.

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u/h2o_best2o Jul 18 '22

Anymore it seems it’s just the newer cars having their automatic high beam on that likes to flicker because it’s a bumpy road

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u/throw-throw-no-catch Jul 18 '22

Yeah, in my region our roads suck so much that you have to think first about the road conditions you're currently driving on and then about your own lights, lol.

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u/tredbobek Jul 18 '22

Also the auto level that is often too high (at least in cities. You don't need to have your laser lights pointed at 100 meters)

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u/Madfermentationist Jul 18 '22

Checking in from PA - it’s either a cop, a deer, or an accident.

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u/FinnishArmy Jul 18 '22 edited Jul 18 '22

I don’t get how people forget to turn their lights on at night; how in the fuck do you see? “Man I wonder why it’s so dark out today, I can barely see”

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u/Lycaeides13 Jul 18 '22

In an urban area, there may be enough light with streetlights that you don't notice right away.

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u/henkie316 Jul 18 '22

I cannot read my speedometer in the evening without turning on my lights, so I was like 'How fast am I going? Why can't I see my speed. Am I still wearing my sun glasses? Oh shit I have my lights turned off'

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u/CrayonEyes Jul 18 '22

I used to do this but with all the crazy road ragers these days I don’t any more. Something similar I will do for motorists with their lights off that should be on, is turn my lights off then on again. I never flash the high beams though.

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u/-meriadoc- Jul 18 '22

One time I was flashing someone with no lights on and they jerked over into the slow lane, I guess they thought I wanted them to move over.

But another time I saw someone honk lightly at a person who had a protected green arrow for a right turn and they weren't moving. Instead of seeing the light was green and moving forward, the man got out of his car and started making angry macho man moves. Like wth?

Anyway it made me hesitant to help out again because if someone can misinterpret my signaling and be some pissed off road rager, that could be a really bad time.

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u/Don_Pickleball Jul 18 '22

I always pay attention when someone flashes their high beams.

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u/jontss Jul 18 '22

I've I'm flashing them behind you it's not because I want to pass you (that's not common here in NA). It's because you're an idiot that forgot to turn on their lights in the dark.

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u/Weneeddietbleach Jul 18 '22

Ironically, people flashing their headlights was enough to temporarily blind my (now ex) wife and caused us to hit a buffalo in Yellowstone.

It went as you would expect.

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u/MaryDellamorte Jul 18 '22

Why would you check to make sure your lights were on only after multiple people flashing their lights at you? This makes no sense. You check it right away after the first person flashed their lights, it takes one second. And half a second to glance at your dash to make sure your high beams aren’t on.

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u/Sliknik18 Jul 18 '22

If someone is flashing their high beams behind you, check your backseat or the bed of your pickup. You may have an axe murderer in your vehicle. /s

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u/40Pesos Jul 18 '22

On my island we flash high beams when giving way or to signal if cops are up ahead

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u/PM_Me_Unpierced_Ears Jul 18 '22

The kind of person who drives around at night with their lights off or with the high beams on in traffic is usually the kind of person who is too clueless to know that someone is flashing their lights at THEM and for what reason.

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u/ponzi314 Jul 18 '22

Was just explaining this to my wife yesterday, she had no idea flashing of lights could mean there’s a cop. Dang city folk

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u/Suspicious_Site7821 Jul 18 '22

On a motorcycle you tap the top of your helmet to let warn of cops ahead, it’s save my ass many times

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u/ponzi314 Jul 18 '22

TIL, thank you

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u/darkfluids Jul 18 '22

Uh, I learned this in the city 😅

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u/IndependentPound2679 Jul 18 '22

Or, you know, turn your damn lights on.

It's the only reason I flash my high beams at someone ever.

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u/IndependentShelter92 Jul 18 '22

Also when people are trying to merge into my lane in front of me, I flash my high beams to let them know I see them and it's safe for them to come in front of me.

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u/[deleted] Jul 18 '22

I had to flash my beams at a pickup truck and have to all the time. I have an astigmatism and those lights are so bright they blind me. So I flash my lights when I can’t see but most people are dumb and think I’m just being rude. I’m alerting the vehicle that I’m literally blind. Lights really need to be redone

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u/Fry_All_The_Chikin Jul 19 '22

I definitely wouldn’t think someone flashing their lights at me intended to let me know they have astigmatism. That’d be my last assumption and I have astigmatism too. Not much helps, even special contacts. Does make a rainy day downtown extra pretty though.